I'm struggling to have kids
If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you’ve already spent more time than you’d like in a doctor’s waiting room, staring at a negative pregnancy test, or lying awake at night wondering what’s wrong or whether it’s your “fault.” Maybe you’ve smiled through another baby shower or nodded along when someone told you to “just relax, I’m sure it’ll happen.” Maybe you’ve prayed the same prayer so many times it feels worn thin and empty.
We want you to hear this first: you are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with your longing for a child. In fact, the desire for children was God’s good idea first (Gen 1:28).
The Reality of Infertility
Infertility is more common than most people realize, and it is on the rise. Rates of infertility have climbed over the past few decades due to factors ranging from endocrine-disrupting chemicals in our environment and delayed marriage, to underlying conditions like endometriosis, hormonal imbalances, blocked fallopian tubes, and male-factor infertility that often go undiagnosed for years. That doesn’t make your pain any less real, but it is important for you to know that you are not the only person walking this road.
Infertility isn’t just a “woman’s issue.” And it’s not merely a standalone disease that can be easily pinpointed in the body. Infertility doesn’t appear like heart disease, a cancer tumor, or a ruptured appendix. Infertility is, in reality, a symptom of underlying reproductive health conditions. It’s not just a “woman’s issue,” either. Research shows that the causes of infertility tend to be shared equally between men and women, and studies have shown that there are typically four or more underlying conditions at play. It’s not a one-size-fits-all problem, and it tends to require a few different approaches to truly treat and restore fertility.
Not All Options Are Equal
We want to be honest with you about something that often gets glossed over in conventional fertility care: not all paths forward are equal medically, financially, or morally. If you’ve already been referred to a reproductive endocrinologist (REI) or a fertility clinic, you may have been told that IUI or IVF are your best options, especially if your insurance covers them. And while that referral can feel like a lifeline, it can also skip over important questions that deserve real answers, like why you’re not conceiving in the first place or why your body is struggling to maintain those pregnancies once they begin.
Moreover, how IVF treats your human embryos in the pursuit of a child requires careful reflection, ideally before any treatment has begun. We believe every human life begins at conception as a genetically complete and distinct human being made in the image of God (Gen 1:26-27) and deserves to be treated accordingly. Routine practices such as the surplus creation of human embryos, preimplantation genetic testing for health or sex (which occurs in 40% of all IVF cycles), indefinite freezing, and the destruction of embryos all risk or outright reject the dignity of each human life endowed with God’s image and glory.
We also believe that women’s and men’s bodies are not broken machines that we should bypass or ignore, but that they are fearfully and wonderfully made, and deserve holistic care that diagnoses and treats the root causes of infertility.
So here’s what you’ll find: honest, compassionate information about your real options.
We’ll walk you through how to start tracking your cycle as a diagnostic tool. We’ll discuss finding a provider trained in restorative reproductive medicine (for both women and men), what IVF actually involves (including what the fertility industry often doesn’t tell you), and what embryo adoption is and why it matters.
We also have a page for those of you who’ve already been through IVF and are sitting with complicated feelings about it. This isn’t about heaping shame, condemnation, or criticism on anyone–it is about creating space for each person, no matter where they are, to learn, process, and walk together. You are welcome here.
Let’s get started.